Real is Rare

Hello, loves! It’s been a while since I’ve written a blog post, and I’m so happy to be back in the swing of things!

Today’s topic was chosen by my Instagram followers! I polled you guys and the one that won was “Real is Rare”. If you don’t follow me on Instagram, click here to follow, and you’ll be able to vote next time! :)

This topic has been weighing on my mind lately, and I think that in today’s world of social media it’s very easy to fall into a trap or habit of only showing the best parts of our lives. I know I’m definitely guilty of it. I mean, who wants to show their bad hair days or sleepless nights? Who wants to show their struggle with acne or an ugly fight with their friends or significant other? It’s hard not to want to drown out all the bad and only focus on the good. The down side to that, is that we start to represent an unattainable facade of what seems like perfection!

One of the most important things for brands, businesses, and people to be is relate-able, right? How can someone find you on social media, see that you have what looks like a perfect life, and be able to relate? It’s impossible. There’s also often no depth to the perfection. Some of the best lessons are learned and hard-won through trials and hardship. The most growth happens after pain. How can we share those lessons without sharing the storm that brought them to us? Sharing these truths can also more often than not help someone out- and it’s usually someone going through something similar!

Your fear of showing what may be the most vulnerable side of yourself can be one of the hardest things to overcome, but coming out the other side can be one of the most rewarding. I made a promise to myself with my word of the year. This year I chose the word “Bold”, and decided that it was high time I start being more bold with my faith and sharing it! I have a strong relationship with God, and I needed to stop worrying about what people would think if most of my posts contained scripture or faith-based advice. For years I’ve let the idea that people would un-follow or stop caring if I showed them that side of me. To be completely honest, I think that hindered me more than it helped. Through that, I’ve been able to share some of the most difficult times of my life, and I still have tons to share! Now, I feel so much more like myself, and I hope that I’m able to help and encourage others along the way.

My point is, when you start to try to conform to what the “norms” of social media teach us, you start to lose what makes you special and unique! You are the only person who can tell your story, and telling your story may open up a whole world of others who have been through something similar and totally needed to hear you tell it. I strongly believe that God has a plan for you and your life, and that plan includes your struggle. Don’t let it go to waste by keeping it to yourself and only sharing the good and shiny and happy.

No rain, no flowers.

No one just immediately has a flourishing garden! So show people your journey, let them see the real you. Because real is far too rare.